“True restfulness, though, is a form of awareness, a way of being in life.
It is living ordinary life with a sense of ease, gratitude, appreciation, peace and prayer.
We are restful when ordinary life is enough.”
Ordinary life. What is ordinary, anyway? For me, ordinary life is what one must do, what I do that takes care of me, my family, anyone else I may be responsible for. Today, ordinary included seeing my kids off to school, making breakfast, going back to bed for short snooze, going to yoga, taking a bath, getting ready for the day, and now I am writing before meeting friend for an afternoon coffee date. For both of us the real work of our day begins after school.
There is a phrase in yoga, “Go as slow as you can and as fast as you need to.” It implies that our instinct is to rush, especially through hard things, this is a reminder that when we go slow, we are able to notice ways we are in control.
In control…I felt nervous writing those words. Its common therapy talk that we are not in control-which is true for so many things that bring us great deals of anxiety and pain. But this idea of going slow and staying in control is really about what is under our influence. When I rush, I miss acknowledging micro-movements that are up to me and only me.
Rest as a way of being challenges me to take my own movements as slow as I can. Extraordiary things have happened in our life and they will happen again. But they aren’t under my control. It’s ordinary life that I am taking slower these days.
And when I am restful, ordinary is enough.